TLC, thoughtful loving communication, can help you find out if you and your significant other are on the same
page about moving your relationship forward. It doesn't happen via text,
email or any other tetchy way but with a good old-fashioned face-to-face
conversation.Whether you’re married, live together or spend the majority of your
time together, we all fall into routines. Maybe we make or order in
dinner and break the routine. Invite him to a night at home filled with TLC. When you do, tell him with a smile that you miss him, miss us
and want to connect and talk without the usual distractions. Pour a glass of wine and toast the two of you, but don’t overindulge
or start drinking too early. You don’t want the wine to cause you to
have loose lips or trigger tears! Then just hug him and say something
sweet and reach for his hand and hold it
as you speak. It’s such a simple act,
but it connects two people instantly, giving each a feeling of love,
comfort, connectivity and closeness.
It’s important he knows that this isn’t simply a romantic
dinner. It’s a time for you both to catch up
and talk. Being honest is hard, and it’s OK if you
stumble and cry. Now’s the time to ask the
hard questions and share what you really want. Let him know you want to
spend your life with him and plan for it together, don't forget with real actionable
steps. Ask him if he wants the same thing. If the answers are yes, you
go, girl! Jump into his arms, hug and kiss him all over — do
whatever feels right to show him how happy you are. If he has
another idea how to do the same, that’s fine, too. Keep the tone of the
invite open and loving — light versus heavy, to limit your pre-stress
and his anxiety over what’s up.
I learned a long time ago we can never go wrong when we speak with
love instead of anger and hurt. If things have gone well and you both feel that you’ve
aired, shared and, most importantly, are on the same page about moving
forward, agree to be present. That can mean engaging in more frequent
TLC to limit uncertainties and keep your plans moving forward. Schedule
your next sit-down in the next few days and start planning everything. On the other hand, if he hesitated or gave you an excuse like,
"Someday, when…" it’s time for you to realize he may love you but isn’t
ready to commit or doesn’t want to. The choice will then be yours to
stay or start "spring cleaning" him out of your life. 
It’s important he knows that this isn’t simply a romantic
dinner. It’s a time for you both to catch up
and talk. Being honest is hard, and it’s OK if you
stumble and cry. Now’s the time to ask the
hard questions and share what you really want. Let him know you want to
spend your life with him and plan for it together, don't forget with real actionable
steps. Ask him if he wants the same thing. If the answers are yes, you
go, girl! Jump into his arms, hug and kiss him all over — do
whatever feels right to show him how happy you are. If he has
another idea how to do the same, that’s fine, too. Keep the tone of the
invite open and loving — light versus heavy, to limit your pre-stress
and his anxiety over what’s up.Reflected based on http://www.sheknows.com/love-and-sex/articles/1114815/how-to-talk-to-your-partner-about-the-future?utm_source=zergnet.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=zergnet_1188651
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